Kelly’s teachings and life curriculum were so vast and comprehensive that it defied all human logic. Not because it was so voluminous rather, she had never even considered these points of views, principals, and tenants. As Kelly looks back, she can see the 3 vital lessons that were necessary for her to have made it through these therapies.
Lesson 1: Kelly had to accept and learn the truth and it was imperative that she stopped lying to herself and to others. She was a pathological liar. As a pathological liar, she inundated herself with the many lies from her youth until then about her beauty, intelligence, potential and station in life and capabilities. Not only had Kelly believed these lies about not being pretty enough, not being capable, not having potential and the like, she also made others believe the inverse that they could treat her in these low manners without questioning why she was being treated so poorly. It was a double-edged sword, and she was continually being cut on both sides.
- Lesson 2: She had realized that we are all dumb about something and that Kelly was dumb about herself.
- Lesson #3: She had to learn to measure her courage against her reticence to change and the concrete acceptance of those changes.
It took Kelly about 6 months, within her inner self, to finally recognize who she was and how she fit into everything Kelly. Once she had a good idea about that, she was finally on the right path and things became much simpler. In fact, the most complex issues became a breeze. Some of them were difficult but quite doable. Again, “Clarity is a b****”.
This “Angelic soul” provided her many hours of documentation, researched therapies, as well as anecdotal tales of wisdom. Throughout this process, they began to see that the worst-case scenario-based solutions that were obstacles to Kelly was the beginning of a prototype towards helping others. Kelly then coined the process, “Norm Therapy”. This exercise in truth and acceptance thereof, is the heart of what Abuse Refuge Org is all about today. Talk about a eureka moment! ARO’s objective is not to cure anyone, rather put them on a path towards wellness and new beginnings. All we want to do is recalibrate who you have been against who you have the potential to become.
“Norm Therapy” is ARO’s signature product for abuse victims. Notwithstanding, that upon completion of our pilot program and after candidate victims have successfully subscribed to “Norm Therapy”, ARO’s business model transfers the victim or survivor to a Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) regulated facility where licensed and well documented clinicians, professionals, case workers, doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers and the like provide their expertise in working with a “Norm Therapy” dossier and their traditional therapies to put that victim or survivor on a path to recovery. “Norm Therapy” is the precursor to therapy. Kelly spent 10 years on the couch even lying to her counselors and psychologists. “Norm Therapy” extricates the truths, the origins and the pathological lies from the victims. We do not create their normal for them. How can a person ever know what normal is if they’ve have never experienced it? Therefore, “Norm Therapy” is designed to bring a clear and a chronicled pathology to our professional staff from which to begin their solution-based therapies.