Is there a colleague that always takes control of meetings, name drops, and takes credit for the work you do? Narcissists thrive in competitive workplaces and can create disharmony in our day-to-day tasks. Let’s talk about how we can spot this type of behavior and what we can do to create more seamless collaborations.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is defined as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration.” (Ni, 2015) Typically, these individuals have an intense need to be superior or save the day at every opportune moment. They will also try to take control of conversations and even interrupt by changing the conversation back to their own accomplishments or ideas. Individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder also lack empathy, have a deep need for admiration, and cannot mentally accept constructive criticism.

How do we stand up for ourselves when someone is trying to dismantle our hard work or take credit for it while climbing their own ladder of success? Here are some tips on how to stand your ground, project confidence, and stand out with kindness amongst your colleagues:

Display empathy and kindness even when it’s not reciprocated. When a narcissist in your workplace is not exhibiting empathy to those around them, show your team that empathy and kindness are a part of your essential values. Respond with kindness even when you don’t receive it back. This shows strength and composure even during the toughest days.

Volunteer for projects and offer your assistance. Be a generous helping hand and use your tools and resources to communicate your offer effectively. Showing you are there to help without needing validation or praise will help you stand out as generous—not praise-seeking.

Remember, your hard work is your own. Be confident in your abilities and accomplishments. When dealing with a narcissist, we often feel disempowered. It sometimes feels as if they have taken control. Take your personal power back by remembering your worth. Remember that you have done amazing things and will continue to do so. Their actions are merely a projection of their own insecurities. (Sarkis, 2017)

Talk with a trusted manager or supervisor if the narcissism turns abusive. If the narcissistic tendencies escalate, ensure your workplace is safe by speaking with a trusted supervisor. If it begins to interfere with your personal growth, safety, and trust in your team, reach out to someone who can assist.

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For more tips on how to remain confident while dealing with narcissists in the workplace, please visit the resources listed below.

Ni, P. M. (2015, April 26). 10 Signs Your Co-Worker or Colleague is a Narcissist. Retrieved from Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201504/10-signs-your-co-worker-or-colleague-is-narcissist.
Sarkis, S. (2017, January 18). 7 Ways to Cope With Narcissists at Work. Retrieved from Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/7-ways-cope-narcissists-work.